Jon: On Ode to Bette

Bette Hair – someone I considered to be a sort of grandmother – ran the in-home daycare I attended. When Bette retired, Daddy wrote a poem to celebrate the wonderful, loving person she was.


How lucky our lives have been blessed
For we know that Bette’s the best
She cared for each child
And never got riled
Her skills left us all quite impressed

For Bette the kids were such joys
She lavished them with tons of toys
The trucks, trikes and walkers
The books, games and markers
For all of the girls and the boys

Each morning was like a pre-school
With afternoons spent in the pool
Such fun every day
The kids wanted to stay
The parents had found quite a jewel

The kids would do art in their smocks
And Bette styled every girl’s locks
Moms tried not to freak
At the end of each week
Cause they never found all of the socks

“Now kids – try to eat all your peas”
“Remember your thanks and your please”
She ran a tight ship
There was never a slip
But always a kiss and a squeeze

With twelve birthday parties each year
The parents could never show fear
The opening of gifts
Gave our spirits great lifts
And the squealing would ring in each ear

Kids always were singing a song
And learning to tell right from wrong
They practiced respect
And their manners were checked
The values you taught were so strong

Your advice stays with us to this day
Each afternoon we’d want to stay
To sit and to chat
“Do this – don’t do that”
We all had to learn “Bette’s Way”

And so, Bette, you’re like no other
But there’s something else we’d like to cover
Though you may move far
Don’t forget who you are
Our kids’ extra favorite Grandmother

Your move to the beach may be bold
You’ll make new friends and keep the old
We’re happy to share
Cause you’re someone so rare
To all of us you are pure gold

Uncle Stan: On surprise weddings

On July 4, 2002 at your Uncle Bob and Aunt Linda’s home in Akron we were having a Halle-reunion and combo 80th B-Day party for Grandma Estelle.  Christine, Danny and I (with Bob & Linda secretly read-in) had pre-arranged to have a “spontaneous/surprise” wedding.  We gave Grandma a gift box that had a wine glass and cloth napkin – hint, hint.  Jon was taking a video of Grandma opening her presents with some very funny commentary.  When she opened the box, everyone in the room immediately got that we were about to be married.  Grandma seemed clueless, so Jon asked her several leading questions:
Mom: Oh, a wine glass and napkin, … oh how nice (said with no enthusiasm)
Q: So Mom, what do you use the wine glass for?
A: As a Kiddish cup, yes?
Q: How about the cloth napkin?
A: To wipe your mouth?
Q: How about both together?
A: Maybe you could use the napkin to clean the glass?
 
Jon: Mom, you ARE the weakest link! Goodbye. 
Finally she got it – You’re going to get married???  
Stan: Yes, Mom.
Mom: When?
Stan: Soon
Bob: We’d love to offer our home as a convenient place to do your wedding (nod-nod, wink-wink)
 
Just then, the Rabbi walks in with a ‘Porta-Chuppah’ (as Jon called it).  His timing was perfect.  Perhaps youremember that you passed out right in the middle of the ceremony – which everyone except Christine and me saw (since our backs were to the crowd).  Your Dad about dropped the Porta-Chuppah pole to come to your rescue.
It was one of the last family gatherings before your Dad passed away five months later.

Megan Rose: On a fellow St. Catherine’s parent

I met Jon and Lisa Halle some time in the Fall of 1996, when our daughters Sam and Caroline were in junior kindergarten together.  Jon was always friendly and outgoing. He made it a point to get to know the other parents in the class, and we developed a friendship based on our common goal of raising smart, thoughtful and well-balanced children. Jon and Lisa chose St. Catherine’s for the girls because they thought it was the best for them; I could tell they took that decision seriously!

Over the years when I saw Jon he always had at least one child in tow…starting with Sam and Joelle and finally with Dane.  I could sense his pride in all of them! I would say he was more involved than most fathers, very hands-on, affectionate and caring.

When Jon passed away it was so incredibly sad. I couldn’t help but think that Dane might not remember his father since he was so young at the time. I’m sure it was Jon‘s hope to get healthier so he could be around longer for his children, and unfortunately things did not go as planned. He lost his life in the process. Lisa put together a wonderful service for him which included a slide show with many pictures of a smiling Jon. Although it was a sad occasion, it was a wonderful way to celebrate Jon‘s full and happy life.

Sam: On Grandma and Grandpa

Today’s post is in celebration of Daddy’s parents, because this week is particularly charged with memories. Yesterday would have been Grandma’s 93rd birthday (born 7/7/1922), and, as mentioned in yesterday’s post, Grandpa died July 3, 1994. This is one of the last pictures I have with the two of them together. As an aside, this photo was taken in our old Creekwood home!

Grandma Estelle, Sam and Pop-Pop Max | Feb. 1994

Grandma Estelle, Sam and Pop-Pop Max | Feb. 1994

Isabel Brand & Lauren Carter: On Mr. Halle (a poem)

We’re sorry for what happened to this great husband and dad
He had so many qualities and none of them were bad.
We will all miss that special Mr. Halle
If we had to vote on that, there would be a million tallies.
He was the little engine type of man
Who always thought, “I know I can!”
He loved his family and all others
He treated other dads like brothers.


Written in December, 2002